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Abbi's avatar

love this as someone who has so many goals and gets overwhelmed and therefore does nothing🄹

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Erifili Gounari's avatar

ā¤ļø thanks for reading!!

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Natasha  Lorde's avatar

I’ve had a lot of friend like this, as much as I love them I get weary of being the inspiration, now I focus on people like you who already want to do it as sometimes if I can I share what’s helped me while in motion not what got me to start. I was so exhausted. I’m so glad there are more people who just go for it!

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Mark Canada, Ph.D.'s avatar

Start with just one, Abbi. You can do it!

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Noa's avatar

I have never related to this more,

I am constantly dreaming of the opportunities I delayed due to the overwhelming amount of desire to do everything at the ā€œright momentā€, what would have happened if I had just picked up that paintbrush and had made even the slightest bit of progress on filling up the canvas without the fear of ā€œruining itā€. Or opening up that draft one more time and continuing writing,even if it affects the whole storyline that was promised to the publisher. To defeat the fear of failure and just trying, even if you dont end up succeeding. To understand that everything you do, every step you make, every success and every failure, is important and signifies your growth as a person with its lessons.

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Mya's avatar

Real

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the thought daughter.'s avatar

Same, I am constantly the personification of fig tree analogy i swear and I get overwhelmed just thinking about it.

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Michelle Rojas-Paniagua's avatar

i hope u start soon abbi:)

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bailey's avatar

You’re not alone queen!!!

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Ty Tidwell's avatar

I’m glad I’m seeing these types of posts. I’ve drowned myself in perfectionism and procrastination over the last year which pretty much destroyed the momentum I had when I first started but I’m trying to regain it by just writing and publishing more frequently without worrying how perfect the piece is.

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Adam Zak's avatar

There are just so many, many ways available to us to distract ourselves from what we know we must do. Perfectionism and procrastination are just that: distractions. Sounds like you may have been able to overcome the inner voice that's been keeping you away from your mission.

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Ty Tidwell's avatar

One day at a time

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Sophia's avatar

So true! If our confidence and ability to try new things relies on our "readiness", we'll stay stuck forever. Self-assuredness grows when we start doing, and realize with every step that we are so much more capable than we think. We just have to get the momentum going!

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Bella Egwuyenga's avatar

"When you wait, you lose momentum" that's so real.

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KJ Lim's avatar

This reminded me of that one saying that opportunity comes to those who seek it, not to those who wait. This will definitely serve as my daily motivation.

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darling's avatar

i wish i had the guts to just do things but it’s so hard for me, i think of every possible way it could wrong. i’ve always been wanting to start content creation, but the thought of putting myself out there and being subject to judgement makes it really daunting. i agree with everything you say in this piece and i hope i can one day follow your advice 😭

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Erifili Gounari's avatar

i absolutely get you!! the key is to make the decision to not sacrifice your potential & your dreams and desires just because of a fear of judgement - you owe yourself more than that and other people's opinions will ultimately fade away šŸ’™šŸ’™šŸ’™

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Brady Hill's avatar

I struggled for a long time to work out what I wanted to do with my life. It was only when I realised that I couldn't keep sitting around waiting for something, that I had to get up and get something started, even if I was unsure what that needed to be, did things start working in my favour.

Eventually, with enough trial and error, I ended up finding something I'm super passionate about, but I never could have found it if I didn't take those first steps.

Sometimes the most important thing is to just start, especially if you're not sure where to start.

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John Murphy's avatar

The pursuit of perfection is the reason of delaying

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Mark Canada, Ph.D.'s avatar

Thanks for sharing this excellent advice. (You captured my approach to life!) I especially appreciate that you mentioned not only starting, but also "getting things done." As you know, starting is a crucial first step (one that too many people don't take), but the next step (another one many people don't take) is, well, taking the next step. To use your word, starting launches momentum, but momentum has to be sustained. Start and keep going!

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Erifili Gounari's avatar

Thank you Mark! ā˜ŗļø

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Salma Rayyan's avatar

for the past 2 years ive been telling myself not to write certain ideas so that i would make them come to life in the most perfect way i could later on, but i realised that doesn't matter as much as getting something written first. thanks for this reminder i loveeeeeddd this!!

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Erifili Gounari's avatar

I’m so glad!!šŸ’“šŸ’“šŸ’“

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Adam Zak's avatar

One thing you might try is writing about these ideas privately in a journal. I recently did this for 181 days based on the "Morning Pages" concept which Julia Cameron describes in her book "The Artist's Way." After six months I noticed it was much easier to write "certain ideas" than it would have been at the start. Give it a go and see what comes of it. Importantly, as Erifili says, get started!

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Salma Rayyan's avatar

thank you thank you thank you for the advice!! i will definitely be trying that out

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Adam Zak's avatar

You are welcome. Quick clarification. The writing I did in my journal was never shared with anyone and I don’t plan on ever making it public. My choice to keep it private for eternity allowed me a higher degree of honesty in what I wrote. I believe this privacy ground rule is an important foundation for self awareness writing.

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Sarah's avatar

This felt like a breath of fresh air. We are so used to hearing that everything needs to be perfect all the time, it’s refreshing to hear that it doesn’t. Most of the time, it just needs to happen, you just need to act, perfect or not <3

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saefiecore's avatar

I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently as someone who has so many dreams, but can’t get themselves to start any of it because I get scared that I don’t have the skills for it. It’s truly an endless cycle of self torment. I really needed to hear this! Gunna start doing things just to simply do them.

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Erifili Gounari's avatar

You’ve absolutely got this!!

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Sapph's avatar

Loved this SM! Thank you for a beautiful piece filled with priceless gems.

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clairo's avatar

this is literally so inspirational as someone who is trying to get out of their depression and struggles with just daily activities and just doing things

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Erifili Gounari's avatar

You’ve got this!!!! šŸ’™šŸ’™šŸ’™

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clairo's avatar

thank you so much ā¤ļøā¤ļø

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alix's avatar

have been journaling / ruminating about this a lot recently; i really loved this ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹

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Erifili Gounari's avatar

Thank you!! 🫶🫶

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icon's avatar

I love this, it's exactly why I downloaded substack

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