Iāve had a lot of friend like this, as much as I love them I get weary of being the inspiration, now I focus on people like you who already want to do it as sometimes if I can I share whatās helped me while in motion not what got me to start. I was so exhausted. Iām so glad there are more people who just go for it!
I am constantly dreaming of the opportunities I delayed due to the overwhelming amount of desire to do everything at the āright momentā, what would have happened if I had just picked up that paintbrush and had made even the slightest bit of progress on filling up the canvas without the fear of āruining itā. Or opening up that draft one more time and continuing writing,even if it affects the whole storyline that was promised to the publisher. To defeat the fear of failure and just trying, even if you dont end up succeeding. To understand that everything you do, every step you make, every success and every failure, is important and signifies your growth as a person with its lessons.
Iām glad Iām seeing these types of posts. Iāve drowned myself in perfectionism and procrastination over the last year which pretty much destroyed the momentum I had when I first started but Iām trying to regain it by just writing and publishing more frequently without worrying how perfect the piece is.
There are just so many, many ways available to us to distract ourselves from what we know we must do. Perfectionism and procrastination are just that: distractions. Sounds like you may have been able to overcome the inner voice that's been keeping you away from your mission.
So true! If our confidence and ability to try new things relies on our "readiness", we'll stay stuck forever. Self-assuredness grows when we start doing, and realize with every step that we are so much more capable than we think. We just have to get the momentum going!
This reminded me of that one saying that opportunity comes to those who seek it, not to those who wait. This will definitely serve as my daily motivation.
i wish i had the guts to just do things but itās so hard for me, i think of every possible way it could wrong. iāve always been wanting to start content creation, but the thought of putting myself out there and being subject to judgement makes it really daunting. i agree with everything you say in this piece and i hope i can one day follow your advice š
i absolutely get you!! the key is to make the decision to not sacrifice your potential & your dreams and desires just because of a fear of judgement - you owe yourself more than that and other people's opinions will ultimately fade away ššš
I struggled for a long time to work out what I wanted to do with my life. It was only when I realised that I couldn't keep sitting around waiting for something, that I had to get up and get something started, even if I was unsure what that needed to be, did things start working in my favour.
Eventually, with enough trial and error, I ended up finding something I'm super passionate about, but I never could have found it if I didn't take those first steps.
Sometimes the most important thing is to just start, especially if you're not sure where to start.
Thanks for sharing this excellent advice. (You captured my approach to life!) I especially appreciate that you mentioned not only starting, but also "getting things done." As you know, starting is a crucial first step (one that too many people don't take), but the next step (another one many people don't take) is, well, taking the next step. To use your word, starting launches momentum, but momentum has to be sustained. Start and keep going!
for the past 2 years ive been telling myself not to write certain ideas so that i would make them come to life in the most perfect way i could later on, but i realised that doesn't matter as much as getting something written first. thanks for this reminder i loveeeeeddd this!!
One thing you might try is writing about these ideas privately in a journal. I recently did this for 181 days based on the "Morning Pages" concept which Julia Cameron describes in her book "The Artist's Way." After six months I noticed it was much easier to write "certain ideas" than it would have been at the start. Give it a go and see what comes of it. Importantly, as Erifili says, get started!
You are welcome. Quick clarification. The writing I did in my journal was never shared with anyone and I donāt plan on ever making it public. My choice to keep it private for eternity allowed me a higher degree of honesty in what I wrote. I believe this privacy ground rule is an important foundation for self awareness writing.
This felt like a breath of fresh air. We are so used to hearing that everything needs to be perfect all the time, itās refreshing to hear that it doesnāt. Most of the time, it just needs to happen, you just need to act, perfect or not <3
Iāve been thinking about this a lot recently as someone who has so many dreams, but canāt get themselves to start any of it because I get scared that I donāt have the skills for it. Itās truly an endless cycle of self torment. I really needed to hear this! Gunna start doing things just to simply do them.
this is literally so inspirational as someone who is trying to get out of their depression and struggles with just daily activities and just doing things
love this as someone who has so many goals and gets overwhelmed and therefore does nothingš„¹
ā¤ļø thanks for reading!!
Iāve had a lot of friend like this, as much as I love them I get weary of being the inspiration, now I focus on people like you who already want to do it as sometimes if I can I share whatās helped me while in motion not what got me to start. I was so exhausted. Iām so glad there are more people who just go for it!
I have never related to this more,
I am constantly dreaming of the opportunities I delayed due to the overwhelming amount of desire to do everything at the āright momentā, what would have happened if I had just picked up that paintbrush and had made even the slightest bit of progress on filling up the canvas without the fear of āruining itā. Or opening up that draft one more time and continuing writing,even if it affects the whole storyline that was promised to the publisher. To defeat the fear of failure and just trying, even if you dont end up succeeding. To understand that everything you do, every step you make, every success and every failure, is important and signifies your growth as a person with its lessons.
Start with just one, Abbi. You can do it!
Real
Same, I am constantly the personification of fig tree analogy i swear and I get overwhelmed just thinking about it.
i hope u start soon abbi:)
Youāre not alone queen!!!
Iām glad Iām seeing these types of posts. Iāve drowned myself in perfectionism and procrastination over the last year which pretty much destroyed the momentum I had when I first started but Iām trying to regain it by just writing and publishing more frequently without worrying how perfect the piece is.
There are just so many, many ways available to us to distract ourselves from what we know we must do. Perfectionism and procrastination are just that: distractions. Sounds like you may have been able to overcome the inner voice that's been keeping you away from your mission.
One day at a time
So true! If our confidence and ability to try new things relies on our "readiness", we'll stay stuck forever. Self-assuredness grows when we start doing, and realize with every step that we are so much more capable than we think. We just have to get the momentum going!
"When you wait, you lose momentum" that's so real.
This reminded me of that one saying that opportunity comes to those who seek it, not to those who wait. This will definitely serve as my daily motivation.
i wish i had the guts to just do things but itās so hard for me, i think of every possible way it could wrong. iāve always been wanting to start content creation, but the thought of putting myself out there and being subject to judgement makes it really daunting. i agree with everything you say in this piece and i hope i can one day follow your advice š
i absolutely get you!! the key is to make the decision to not sacrifice your potential & your dreams and desires just because of a fear of judgement - you owe yourself more than that and other people's opinions will ultimately fade away ššš
I struggled for a long time to work out what I wanted to do with my life. It was only when I realised that I couldn't keep sitting around waiting for something, that I had to get up and get something started, even if I was unsure what that needed to be, did things start working in my favour.
Eventually, with enough trial and error, I ended up finding something I'm super passionate about, but I never could have found it if I didn't take those first steps.
Sometimes the most important thing is to just start, especially if you're not sure where to start.
The pursuit of perfection is the reason of delaying
Thanks for sharing this excellent advice. (You captured my approach to life!) I especially appreciate that you mentioned not only starting, but also "getting things done." As you know, starting is a crucial first step (one that too many people don't take), but the next step (another one many people don't take) is, well, taking the next step. To use your word, starting launches momentum, but momentum has to be sustained. Start and keep going!
Thank you Mark! āŗļø
for the past 2 years ive been telling myself not to write certain ideas so that i would make them come to life in the most perfect way i could later on, but i realised that doesn't matter as much as getting something written first. thanks for this reminder i loveeeeeddd this!!
Iām so glad!!ššš
One thing you might try is writing about these ideas privately in a journal. I recently did this for 181 days based on the "Morning Pages" concept which Julia Cameron describes in her book "The Artist's Way." After six months I noticed it was much easier to write "certain ideas" than it would have been at the start. Give it a go and see what comes of it. Importantly, as Erifili says, get started!
thank you thank you thank you for the advice!! i will definitely be trying that out
You are welcome. Quick clarification. The writing I did in my journal was never shared with anyone and I donāt plan on ever making it public. My choice to keep it private for eternity allowed me a higher degree of honesty in what I wrote. I believe this privacy ground rule is an important foundation for self awareness writing.
This felt like a breath of fresh air. We are so used to hearing that everything needs to be perfect all the time, itās refreshing to hear that it doesnāt. Most of the time, it just needs to happen, you just need to act, perfect or not <3
Iāve been thinking about this a lot recently as someone who has so many dreams, but canāt get themselves to start any of it because I get scared that I donāt have the skills for it. Itās truly an endless cycle of self torment. I really needed to hear this! Gunna start doing things just to simply do them.
Youāve absolutely got this!!
Loved this SM! Thank you for a beautiful piece filled with priceless gems.
this is literally so inspirational as someone who is trying to get out of their depression and struggles with just daily activities and just doing things
Youāve got this!!!! ššš
thank you so much ā¤ļøā¤ļø
have been journaling / ruminating about this a lot recently; i really loved this ā¤ļøāš©¹
Thank you!! š«¶š«¶
I love this, it's exactly why I downloaded substack