stop trying to outsmart uncertainty

trying to predict everything is the fastest way to ruin it

The hardest things are so often also the most important, and this is what I keep coming back to when I realize that the one word that keeps coming back to me over and over, is surrender. In every phase of my life and no matter what I am striving towards, surrender is the lesson I am trying to learn.

A few years ago I realized that most discomfort comes from being unable to make peace with uncertainty. To look uncertainty in the eye and say I’m okay with this - I don’t need to know everything and I’m okay with it. With every wish and desire and dream, there’s a what if that’s not in your hands. I’ve mastered doing what’s in my hands by now, made personal agency my biggest strength and learned that if I become someone who gets things done, who knows how to take action, then at least I am doing everything I can to create the life that I want for myself. And it has single-handedly been the most important lesson I’ve learned so far, and the most impactful. I refuse to let my dreams be dreams, and I take action because I won’t let overthinking, doubts, or comparison be in my way when they don’t need to be.

But with every action, and every dream, there’s an element of surrender, and I think this is what the happiest, most successful people have figured out: how to surrender to the unknown, to uncertainty, without clinging to the outcome with everything they’ve got. Learning to take action is the first most important thing that always comes to mind when someone asks why they’re stuck or feel far from where they want to be. The second is surrender.