First of all, *yes* to The Good Place! I love that show so much.
I'm really proud of your friend L for doing the hard, scary decision of calling things off. I was a chronic people-pleaser for much of my life as well, and that first step into self-sovereignty is so absolutely gut-wrenching. It gets easier from there. She has an internet stranger rooting for her! :)
I wish I could say people grow out of the petty drama as they age, but it would be a lie. I had a close friend, someone I really trusted (not easy for me), ice me out over a miscommunication last year. There was a schedule mix-up, but instead of talking to me, she literally walked away from me when I approached her and didn't answer my texts for two months. She's in her mid-30s. Prefrontal cortex maturation only gets you so far, I'm afraid, ha. We did talk eventually, and we're civil now, but I lost that trust in her.
I love your premise that we owe each other the benefit of the doubt. We *do* need each other to survive, to grow, to become. And we can't do that if we're jumping to conclusions, being petty, or simply not communicating.
Wow I love this piece! I definitely agree with you. I think communication is key, but sadly some people do not know how to take feedback when they’re wrong, and their response is quite immature. Anyways, I hope more people listen to this message!!
Yes yes and yes! My 20s had such a profound impact on my perspective on friendships. It's truly such a confusing yet wonderful time that teaches you so much about friendships and love.
This is all very mature and I'd say your brain developed more fully than expected. Some people never learn the importance of open communication. Gold star.
First of all, *yes* to The Good Place! I love that show so much.
I'm really proud of your friend L for doing the hard, scary decision of calling things off. I was a chronic people-pleaser for much of my life as well, and that first step into self-sovereignty is so absolutely gut-wrenching. It gets easier from there. She has an internet stranger rooting for her! :)
I wish I could say people grow out of the petty drama as they age, but it would be a lie. I had a close friend, someone I really trusted (not easy for me), ice me out over a miscommunication last year. There was a schedule mix-up, but instead of talking to me, she literally walked away from me when I approached her and didn't answer my texts for two months. She's in her mid-30s. Prefrontal cortex maturation only gets you so far, I'm afraid, ha. We did talk eventually, and we're civil now, but I lost that trust in her.
I love your premise that we owe each other the benefit of the doubt. We *do* need each other to survive, to grow, to become. And we can't do that if we're jumping to conclusions, being petty, or simply not communicating.
Wow I love this piece! I definitely agree with you. I think communication is key, but sadly some people do not know how to take feedback when they’re wrong, and their response is quite immature. Anyways, I hope more people listen to this message!!
Yes yes and yes! My 20s had such a profound impact on my perspective on friendships. It's truly such a confusing yet wonderful time that teaches you so much about friendships and love.
This is all very mature and I'd say your brain developed more fully than expected. Some people never learn the importance of open communication. Gold star.
Thank you, appreciate it 💞
Young and wise!